This is all the dysfunctional nonsense that SOAR seeks to inspire our youth to move beyond so that they can become better people than we are. So, the most recent session had a focus on consent. We don't believe that any age is too young to talk about this intense subject. We believe that any age child can understand the concept that their body is where they live and consequently, their body belongs to them and no one has a say in how their body should be touched, treated, and interacted with except them. The interesting thing in having the discussion with the youth is they had no problem understanding this concept and they often expressed initiative in agreeing wholeheartedly with the principles based within it. As I left that session, I was inspired by their clarity, but then I had to think about why it is that grown @ss people seemingly have a much harder time than these youth understanding basic issues like boundaries, respect, and not violating other people's living spaces, their bodies.
So, since many of you so-called adults, especially menfolk, seem to have a much harder time understanding basic healthy behavior than young children, I'm hoping I can help by laying out some basic rules of everyday conduct that even your small brains should be able to understand:
First, NEVER engage in unsolicited sexual advances towards anyone without their consent. That means, if they haven't told you that they want to hear your views of what you wish could happen between the two of you, then don't offer your opinion on this issue. By consent, I mean use your basic social skills that you learned when you were 10 years old like our students. "Hi! I would love the opportunity to talk to you more and get to know you better!" If the person doesn't respond positively to that introduction, that means they aren't interested! Move on! Any further efforts you make after that to interact with that person is abuse.
Second, if you do make an offer towards someone, any type of personal offer, and they decline, that means NO and the same principle as above applies e.g. STOP engaging with them that way.
Third, NEVER touch anyone without their consent. Even when you extend your hand for a shake, that's an attempt to gain their consent. If they don't extend their hand to you, that's their right. Respect it! STOP!
In other words dudes, any physical interaction that isn't provided consent is abuse and could easily be sexual assault. Now, I think some of you can benefit from some education and clarification. I think others of you have some very sick and dysfunctional elements of your emotional state that need immediate attention, but you are not my primary concern. My concern is creating and implementing a vision of community defense and education that prepares our community to make a demand against your behaviors e.g. either change and/or get help, or be dealt with. Your behaviors against the community cannot and will not be tolerated. We cannot live in a world where children exhibit better morality than adult men. So, if you are still even a little confused, let me make it clear that abusive behavior is always unacceptable. And for those of you who call yourselves activists for justice who perpetuate abusive behaviors in our communities, don't think we don't and/or won't be able to see through your front of being a principled activist while you try to secretly abuse people when you think no one is looking. We are doing our work. As we grow stronger with that work, you will be exposed. And, you will be held accountable.
Many of us are tired of having to spend 60% of our time dealing with inappropriate behavior instead of being able to devote our energies towards building capacity to fight the enemies of humanity - capitalism, imperialism and its tools of oppression the prison industrial complex, the military industrial complex, class, race, gender oppression and homophobia, along with the continued exploitation of most of the world's people and resources. So, our ask for you who are engaging in this behavior is if you need help with issues, have some courage and be honest enough to step forward. We won't judge you for that. In fact, we will help you, but if you continue to act revolutionary and progressive in the daytime while engaging in oppressive abuse at night, we will expose you and hold you accountable. The youth are shedding the light. Its time.